Sunday, August 9, 2015

On Suffering


I think that the most important life lesson anybody should learn is this: you do not need to suffer. And although to endure suffering is a very Christian mantra, and sometimes an admirable trait, one must have enough self love to identify conditions and circumstances that one can choose to not be tangled with.

You don't have to put up with that moody roommate. You don't need an emotionally abusive boyfriend. Or an inconsiderate job. Master the art of putting a fine line between what's tolerable and what's not. Love your life by the choices you make. The best ones are those that you can live with wholeheartedly - no negative energies; just pure, unadulterated happiness.

Monday, August 3, 2015

On Lonely Saturday Afternoons


I am rereading Haruki Murakami's Norwegian Wood and I realize that most of my Saturdays are very much like Toru Watanabe's Sundays. On Saturdays, I do the laundry in the morning and spend the rest of the afternoon in idle, infinite, solitude. I'd read a book, or listen to music - basically filling the void that life has left inside me.

Self-help articles have taught me that enjoying alone time is the best way to cure loneliness and emptiness, but how exactly do you do enjoy loneliness? Should you just stare at white, low ceilings after the day's work is done? Do you read literature or listen to music, when technically, these are not personal thoughts but other people's musings of their own alone time that are cleverly etched on paper or tunes?

How do you become alone with your own thoughts and not get scared that these will drown you and suck all the sunshine away on bright, sunny Saturday afternoons? In fact, what does it even mean to be alone in a universe that is a potpourri of atoms and imaginings?

I guess the old mantra that 'no one is alone' is truer than in seems.